30 life lessons that everyone should know about

I’m a few years into my 30’s now, and I can wholeheartedly say that I have never loved myself more!

I don’t know why there’s this huge fuss about turning 30 when we reach the end of our 20’s, like it’s a bad thing. Personally, I started to feel a confidence boost in myself when I turned 28 years old and I knew it had to do with that fact that I was growing wiser. Now, in my 30’s, my self esteem is at its highest, and I can truly say that I’m loving who I have become!

If this is how I feel in my 30’s, then bring on the 40’s!

In all seriousness though, I feel like I have learned so many life lessons that I want to share them all with you! So, grab your favorite hot beverage, get comfortable, and enjoy the read my friends!


1. Don’t let anyone tell you that you are doing ‘life’ wrong

There are many ways to live, we just have to find what works best for us; we shouldn’t let anyone else decide how we should live.

2. Trust your instincts

Always, always, ALWAYS trust your inner voice and your heart, doing so has saved me many times.

3. Be present

We need to put down our devices and really be there for our loved ones; we need to actually listen to them without looking down at our electronics. So, enjoy the present because it will become your past before you know it.  

4. Take those first steps

Sometimes, we want to dive into something big, but this can be intimidating, thus preventing us from living out our true passion. Instead of diving into a big ocean, try dipping your toes into a pond then move onto splashing into your passion. Before you know it, you will be swimming in success!

5. Practice self love

This is a big one! Love yourself just the way you are, flaws and everything! Moreover, don’t blame yourself for your past mistakes, but think of your mistakes as lessons learned. 

6. Don’t let the negativity bring you down

It’s easy to get distracted by the negativity in this world- from strangers and even from those you know personally- but, don’t let it bring you down and distract you from reaching your goals.

7. Say ‘’no’’ to save your sanity

We can’t do it all, we just can’t. We need to learn to say ‘’no’’ sometimes, just to save our sanity. We also have to realize that it’s better to say ”no” at the present moment than take on too much and drown ourselves later on.

8. Faith gets you through the toughest times

I have fallen countless times throughout my life, but the one thing that helps me recover each and every time is my FAITH.

9. It’s never too late to work on your inner self

I have life goals that I have been working on since childhood, and I also have personal goals that I have started working towards as an adult; both are goals worth working towards because I know they are a part of my journey to becoming the best version of myself.

10. Do more of what you love

There is so much power in doing things you love, so much peace that comes from this. So, do more of what you LOVE.

The power of doing something you LOVE

11. Just because you break down from time to time, this does not mean that you are broken

When you break down, look at it as an opportunity to build yourself up again, but this time build yourself up with more strength and power then before!

12. God is the best of all planners

There have been many times where I thought things were not working out for me, but in the end, I realized things were going exactly as God planned for me and HIS plans were indeed the BEST.

13. Don’t take things personally

This was a hard lesson for me to learn, as I did take things personally for a very long time. Through the years, I started to realize that the way individuals behave has nothing to do with me, but it says a lot about their insecurities, their struggles, and their character.

14. Love with your soul

There’s loving others, but then there’s loving others with your soul. As time passes, you realize what the difference is between the two and you start loving with your soul more often because you know how it feels to be loved this way yourself.

15. Don’t compare yourself to others

We should not drain ourselves by comparing ourselves to others. We don’t know what others are going through, they could have it worse than us.  We are all in a different place and our situations vary, no two people are exactly the same, so just focus on staying on your own path.

16. Make time for self care

Sometimes, we are so busy doing things for others, we forget about ourselves, and that’s why it’s important to make time for yourself. So, slow down and pamper yourself in the way you know best- you deserve it!

17.  It’s okay to delete individuals from your life

I used to feel guilty about this one, but I learned that sometimes you can’t change people, but you can move away from them- and sometimes you NEED to distance yourself from people who are hurtful.

18. No one person has it all

There is no such thing as a person who has it ALL. In fact, one of the tests of this life is how we choose to live without that one thing we want the most, but don’t have!

19. One act of kindness can change someone’s life

No act of kindness goes wasted, sometimes the tiniest gesture has the power to make a large impact on someone’s day, and even his or her life.

No act of kindness goes wasted

20. Build a support system

Surround yourself with people who will cheer you on when you are down, who will inspire you to pursue your passions, and who will always be there for you no matter what.  

21. Aim for peace

If we all aim for peace, then this world will become a beautiful place to live in.

22. Set realistic goals

The more realistic your goals are, the more easier you will be able to attain them, and thus you will feel more empowered to continue going further.

23. We all struggle

No one person goes through this life without any hardships. We all struggle with something, but what matters is how we get through this struggle and the lessons we learn while fighting through our hardships.

24. Ask and He will give

It is never too late to turn to God for help, all you have to do is ask Him and He will answer your prayers.

25. It’s okay to reach out for help

Know that asking for help does not mean that you are weak, it means that you are strong enough to reach out.

26. Learn from others

Sometimes, people are placed in our lives to teach us lessons, so make sure you pay attention to what their purpose is.

27. Embrace change

Don’t think of change as something that should be intimidating, but rather look at it as a start to something new and exciting

28. Be brave

Be brave enough to be the unique you and to put your own spin on things- because different is beautiful!

29. Have the right intention

If you start something with the right intention, it will flourish into something amazing. If you turn something down with the right intention, then something better will come your way.

30. Beauty starts with the soul

The true definition of beauty is how you treat others, the respect, love, and kindness you show towards those around you.

The true definition of beauty is how you treat others, the respect, love, and kindness you show towards others


The one theme that these life lessons all have in common is that there will be a time in your life where you feel like you are losing, but what you don’t know is that you are still a winner for not giving up. Take your time to rest, to take a break from it all, and then regain your energy and fight your way through the storm. If anything, the moments of darkness will help you to fight for the light even more.

Much peace and love always,

Sumaira Zaheer

9 comments on “30 LIFE LESSONS I HAVE LEARNED IN MY 30’S”

  1. Agree with those all! (And I am getting closer to 40!)

    This is one that is so important – It’s okay to delete individuals from your life. Get rid of the toxic people!! It does make all the difference!

  2. I was around 28 when I started to enjoy and learn from all the things around me. As they say, it’s a late bloomer. Age does really give some impact to women. I was also thinking the way you did but now I’m at ease and tend to love myself first then that’s the time I can pass this to my love ones.

    I’m the kind of person to let other people happy or do things for them first before me. I learned this is not the way it should be.

    Love to read your next article.

  3. Absolutely loved every one of these. As someone who has hit her 30s too, I can relate to so many of these realisations. The ones that hit home were Saying No to save my sanity! Self love and self care and deleting people from our lives – lol!
    Thank you so much for sharing your lessons! x

  4. Such beautiful lessons. I find now just starting my 30’s that I’m also loving it! I feel so much more at peace with myself than I used to be. However, still need to keep reminding myself of all this <3 Jazak'Allah khair!

  5. There are so many things here that I personally struggle with being in my late 30’s (some of them being 11,15,17 to name a few). So many good reminders of things that we can work on to improve our lives.

  6. Ask and He will give you…..strongly believe in this….this is really a wonderful and yet motivational post….all the 30 points are nicely written….

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